Thanks xyz321 but I am currently experimenting with Raspbian wheezy. I will look, maybe there is something there for me.
I have sound working and also video, but not together. The video is via vlc and is jerky and no sound. Probably the Pi is not up to doing both together.
Having decided that with Raspbian I cannot play the Chinese new year celebrations, catchup TV or videos from USB or the Pi desktop, I will look at Raspbmc after I finish learning more.
It is interesting and I can experiment on the same tv that the missus is watching tv on lol. She is beginning to think I am into soaps!
It is like learning Mandarin, you know the words but the grammar is hard to grasp.